Relationships for Sons and Daughters with Disabilities

July 20th, 2015

By Max Barrows

Having a relationship is really about true inclusion. What do we mean by true inclusion? The first things that come to mind are working in the community or taking typical classes in school. Our definition of true inclusion goes beyond that. When fully included, your son or daughter will have relationships with other people. There are different types of relationships. For example, having friends is essential because your child needs someone else to talk to, and do fun things with. You want your child to be liked for who they really are! This is also a great way to learn the basics about having a healthy relationship. Beyond friendships, there are many other kinds of relationships. Examples might include having a boyfriend/girlfriend/partner, getting married, and having a family of your own. This may make you feel a little bit nervous. It is a common feeling that almost all parents have, so it is totally understandable. Looking ahead, you need to prepare yourself for your child growing up. Over time, parents get older and eventually may not be able to take care of their sons or daughters who are now grown up. Persons with disabilities need to discover what independence is to them, which can mean lots of opportunities to look into. For example, one person with a disability may like to move out of their parent’s house into a shared living situation. Another person may desire living on their own. Others may have goals of living with housemates, a partner or a spouse. Your son or daughter may have no problem living at home, but still wants a “significant other” in their life. What really is important is self-determination among persons with disabilities!

(Blog written 2012-2013)

Brotherly Bond

July 20th, 2015

By Kyle Moriarty

Kevin and Kyle 2013

Having a sibling is tough and fascinating at times. Age differences can create challenges or make you unite. I have a brother that is two years older than me. We act a lot different but are so similar in character. My best friend is my brother Kevin. Though things have changed, sometimes things that my very own mother couldn’t see from me my brother could always pick up on. Having good times always was easy for my brother and I. It wasn’t always easy being the younger brother. My mother and father did good at treating us equal but sometimes it got tough for me being the youngest and not being able to communicate with my family.

Teaching me how to stand up against people who discriminated or made fun of me was the first way Kevin made it clear he would be my protector in school. I think as my brother and not my parent he just understood how I felt and what I was going through.

I think it was hard for me a lot of the time I had to be watching from the sidelines while Kevin got to be involved in hockey and other sports. He did always try to include me though I depended on him quite a lot. Before Kevin left for the service he was really involved with me and my typing. Kevin always would come in my room and bring us snacks to share. It usually was popcorn and sodas. My very favorite time I remember with my brother was the summertime in our pool. We had really good times in the pool in the hot summer. Family barbeques and swimming were our favorite things to do.

I get lonely at home with Kevin being gone to the army. It is only me now. Mom gets to be a little overwhelming with just me to pick at. I like being able to hear Kevin on the phone but the way we communicate is hard to do over the phone.

Some siblings are never close and some aren’t close until they become adults. We’ve always been close and though he is clear across the world I hope to always have our brotherly bond.

(Blog written 2012-2013)

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